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| an apt depiction of two wonderful countries who don't quite match, but do fit together source |
Let's be honest, Canada was never legally married to the USA but we were in a pretty high-functioning common law relationship, a contract that both parties signed. Truth be told, we don't quite match, but we made it work, even enjoyed the relationship. Sure, we are clearly the beta in this couple and at times, you may have taken advantage of that (Canadian energy) but for the most part, we truly loved each other. Maybe we still do? But what's that cliché about relationships? Love is never enough.
Turns out that's true. Canada never asked for this divorce, but it's happening. And here we are. One toxic partner continually makes demands. So we meet them, or try to, even when we all know some are bullshit (the fentanyl crisis at Canadian border). Our representatives (political leaders) negotiate, bend over backwards, and indeed make some changes. But it's not working....
Why? Despite a desire to remain partners in some form at least, one partner continually employs all the toxic relationship playbook classics: accuses us of cheating, makes unfair demands, belittles our representatives, limits contact, lies, plays the victim, gaslights, makes us feel unsafe, uses social media to demean and threaten us....
A relationship can't exist without trust, honesty, and respect, can it? Temporarily, perhaps. But eventually....
We're stronger than we were a few weeks ago. We're changing. We're more united (9/10 Canadians!) We're making new plans. Nevertheless, it's been a sad month. I really do mean that. But to use a clever line from that American culture once so beloved to us, "bye Trump Felicia."
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Let's hope Carney can defeat Polievre in the upcoming election.
And hey DB, thanks for the comment you left me recently about Melanie Joly -- I agree with your estimation of her, so I made her my "Beautiful Woman of the Day" today over at my other blog:
https://bwotday.blogspot.com/2025/03/melanie-joly.html
The relationship has changed forever, unfortunately.
"A relationship can't exist without trust, respect, and honesty, can it?" Not in my world.
Trump can't be trusted. I can see a return to the relationship once Trump is gone, IF the Republican party also changes. Otherwise, it's just too risky and damaging to have so much inter-dependence. It's going to leave some scars, though. This was a great analogy you drew.
It's been an awful month. The only good thing trump has ever done, is to unite Canadians.
I'm so sorry! A lot of us hate what happened and hope you do well. 😟❤️
Appalled is a better word to describe how we feel.
What a brilliant metaphor. I hope this, somehow, gets published more widely because it is pretty brilliant.
Codex: I've seen this analogy when the UK brexited the EU, but this summarizes it well. He runs his public life the way he runs his private life. Canadians have a lot to be proud of and the unity is wonderful.
Codex: Thought you'd appreciate this if you haven't seen it yet.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8peiLVFsLdw&t=163s&pp=2AGjAZACAQ%3D%3D
Codex: Do you have a link to Trudeau’s speech?
Codex: I meant Chretien. Sorry for the multiples.
It's going to be a tough four years for a lot of people... on both sides of the border. I have lots of confidence in Carney, even though he hasn't been part of Canadian politics before.
Love this.
Fingers crossed.
Those three pillars are indeed important but some relationships can be salvaged. Although currently broken, let's hope this is temporary.
Scars? Yes indeed. It's definitely a wake-up call regarding interdependence.
Well said. Like finding that one valuable thing at the dump that is his legacy.
A Canadian always appreciates a sorry and yes, I hate this too.
Thanks, AC.
It will be tough and yes, fingers crossed.
Here's the gist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r2YnP_wTZLg
Yes, what he's really skilled at is toxicity.
...Carney will make mincemeat out of Trump!
All trump is good for is creating chaos and he spreading it around the world.
Codex: Thought about this post all day. What's missing is that he's also a criminal. I think that the relationship that took decades to build won't be undone. Humans have always engaged in trade. Carney is highly respected world wide and in the finance sector you're lucky to have him. This is an aberration and people that have been complicit or scared. The world is in shock as I continue to be.
Great analogy!
I like the analogy of a toxic relationship, difficult to get out of and recover from. Seeing Canadians unite is good and will make the country stronger. Strong enough to get through the next few years, I am sure of it.
The children in this common law blended marriage are suffering, but cheering on the partner who played the role faithfully, and shaking our heads at the sociopathic emotionally abusive other partner who is blowing up the whole dolly house. We want the good and faithful partner to take her children and thrive, and we will wave to you from across the fence, and hope that if the need arises, you will give us shelter—though it would be far too many children to shelter, so go take care of yours. We see you, we love you, we understand what you need to do.
I have a confession to make… I accidentally deleted your comment over on my Blog (a colourful life). Chubby fingers, I had meant to delete a spam message just above your comment. Sorry!
...I like to think of this as a temporary estrangement, better times are coming.Elbows Up🇨🇦
Temporary estrangement? I like that sentiment, a lot.
Thank you for your post, as a Canadian living abroad I am avid for news on how people are perceiving all that is going on right now because I truly can´t believe what´s happening.
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