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Wednesday, December 31, 2025

Need this today?

Sometimes random revitalizes. 
 Happy Hogmanay. 

A couple of years ago, this postcard arrived in my post office mailbox, anonymously. Postcards like these were created by local students and distributed randomly to help launch a men's mental-health campaign, still ongoing. It's still tacked to my office wall. I like it there. 

At that time, I was experiencing some physical and mental health problems that I didn't want to be public about...didn't want to trouble anyone with...and although my situation was not dire, this postcard found me just when I needed it, just when I felt most alone. I re-read it every single day. I also sought support. Many men don't. 

Last Hogmanay, my new years mantra was an attempt to shake my fist at the oncoming cultural shitstorm (and it was), but this year...? The forecast continues to be shitstorm, but fingers crossed for less fist-shaking and more hand-extending. Dear friends, if you need help, don't wait for a postcard. Consider this random internet guy the messenger you (perhaps) needed today.  

Tuesday, December 30, 2025

Fave Books 2025

I fell in love with reading again this year. It's not like we had broken up, but... perhaps horticulture would call it a reblooming. My relationship with books this year quickened, seeking to make sense of the senselessness and find the humanity amongst the intrusive and pervasive cultural smog surrounding us, because let's be honest, it's choking out there sometimes.  

Dear authors, thank you for the absolute toil you make look so easy: like few other things, it helps clear some of that smog. In no particular order, my top five reads follow. 

If you've read this
title (an imagined
early life of William and
Agnes Shakespeare)
you might be
surprised by my
perspective: this book
is a touching romance.
There's wooing, and
 deep maternal love,
and there's a remoteness
from real-life, to spin
a magic cocoon for a
happy family. But then,
tragedy: one all
parents dread most. 
Yet in making art out of
pain...perhaps all's
 well that ends well?
 Their plight reminded 
me of Prospero's final
lines in Shakespeare's
Tempest. He asks
the audience for
applause. Although
many conflicts remain
unresolved, the story 
(that suspension of
disbelief, that romance
afforded by the arts) 
can transform our
pain into something
bearable, even
meaningful, albeit
temporarily: 
"release me from
these bands
with the help of
your good hands." 


It seems to me that
beneath this short
book's surface
is Ireland itself:
its history, its
trauma, its children,
and its future.
Essentially a
novella, Keegan's book
is in no way small.
That ironic title
highlights how
trauma is minimized,
even institutionalized,
in service to 
old and tired
ideologies until 
one good man,
(seemingly small),
decides that delivering
coal and righteous
sanctimony is less
important than
his daughters' futures.  


Historical fiction
(early 1800s?)
set in what is now
Newfoundland.
A sister and brother,
just children at first,
endure the feral
environment while
trying to survive.
Explorers and early
capitalists come and
go seeking fortunes,
all hapless eventually
yet history teaches us
this is how North
America was settled. 
An Adam and
Eve tale, there's
paradise here and an
inevitable fall, plus a
cruel ocean
waiting to swallow
everything. And yet
we immigrants &
colonizers are the 
descendants of
these tough and
tortured mortals. 

With each incredulous
chapter, my inner voice
continued to ask, 
what IS the long walk?
Is it a coming-of-age
horror story? Yes.
Is it an war allegory?
Yes. Is it modern-day
reality-TV obsessed
USA? Yes. Is it 
about male friendship
and the way
it knots itself
embracing then rejecting
vulnerability? Yes. 
Despite my conclusions,
does it remain
ambiguous? Yes.
Although I've read
many of his titles,
I think this one 
impressed me like no
other King novel,
(and its his first!)
Also this:
read with caution. 
Although published in
1979 (!) the casual
nature of its cruelty
and insanity
 feels very 2025. 

I already wrote about
the film version, yet
I loved the book first.
A lonely good man,
a logger in early
Northwest USA,
grapples with his 
mistakes, his losses,
his empty life. 
Do our mistakes
haunt us? Often.
Do they doom us?
Sometimes. Is there
some cosmic price
to pay? I doubt it.
Or must we simply
enjoy kissing the ones
we love among the 
daisies while we can?
Yes, yes, yes. 

Sunday, December 28, 2025

Let's be honest

I know this is a little late...but we enjoyed a rare Christmas with our kids and ALL our grandkids. Three of the five (!) little ones slept over with us; we were VERY BUSY in the best possible way. You would definitely laugh at the chaotic family pics sure to be hilariously re-enacted in the future. Anyway, on Christmas Eve, these are the treats they decided to leave for Santa and the reindeer. M wrote, "SANTA FOR YOU." 😀

Healthy choices... or hmm... were those little toots keeping the cookies and chocolates for themselves? Either way, adorbs.

P.S. I have a few scheduled posts before year-end, but I'm starting a new job in January for a few weeks and I AM BUSY (good busy). Nevertheless, I will check in periodically to determine if you've left ME some treats posts, because let's be honest, those feel like surprise treats too. 

Friday, December 19, 2025

Things that deserve the stink-eye:

It won't stop snowing here. To paint a picture for you.... 

Imagine you're sitting at your dining room table ready for supper. The table is set, nothing is amiss on the table's surface...the food is piping hot...but you'd be sitting in snow. Reach into your pocket... snow. Drop your fork... gone. Forgot the ketchup...you'd be wading back into the kitchen, the snow way over your Sorels (nod to fellow Canadians). Don't even attempt to open the fridge's bottom drawer. 

We are approaching a meter. 😕

It's equal parts alarming and hilarious. Winter travel is doubly concerning. Our community is doing a great job with snow removal but they can't contend...it's relentless. It's also my youth relived, but with climate change, well...we haven't had this much moisture consistently for about a decade...maybe two? Hence I apologize for complaining, but...there's a deer attempting to shelter under my deck. Enough.

Even the trees are alarmed. Examine the photo: I'm 73% sure that's some sort of tree spirit and I'm 100% sure he's exhausted. 

Dear friends, there are apparently about 90 days until Spring (insert Canadian-style guffaw here), so in the meantime, what to do, but just go with the flow snow¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Wednesday, December 17, 2025

Five!

Number 5 is here! Another M! And another cousin for M, L, and the last M!

His (now) big sister is sitting on my lap helping me, er, type this... kjnjjjjjjjjhjjjjjhjj ...thanks, I. 😌😆😘

Remember that line from Winnie the Pooh? "I was walking along looking for somebody and then suddenly I wasn't anymore." 

Wow. Dear friends, may we all find our somebodies. 

Sunday, December 14, 2025

You can't see it until...

I'm painting again. 😊
Artist and author Lynda Barry said it so well: "There's the drawing you are trying to make and the drawing that's actually being made—and you can't see it until you forget what you were trying to do."

Dear friends, Lynda Barry is talking about life, too. 

Forget it and keep going. 

Friday, December 12, 2025

Without Answers

I've been reading a lot about art lately. One notion about artmaking stood out among many assertions: there's a human tendency to "close early on an idea." 

Yes. 

Whether a forklift operator or physician, that inclination to tick boxes, to iron it out, to get to the bottom, to solve and be satisfied, to close on an idea, and move on—we humans resist protraction, don't we? Waiting rankles. It can be uncomfortable. We don't like to not know. It feels like...losing. My words are not intended to criticize this type of thinking; I haven't read the book yet, but there's obvious value in both thinking fast and thinking slow

But art...it invites us to to think    s   l    o    w    to decelerate, to ease off...to pull ideas around us, closer, like a blanket, a weighted blanket. 

Have you seen the film Train Dreams? There's a scene—perhaps 90 seconds (?)—where one character's quick decision, his reluctant yet undeniable involvement, haunts him forever. He engages with an idea without thought, an idea with an alarming outcome, one he surely did not expect nor want, and this idea, this moment, the burden of it... he spends his life doomed by it.

Train Dreams does something so well: it emphasizes scale and image over discourse. With little dialogue, the film's director paints a stunningly beautiful portrait of a man and a life hinged on regret and loss and grief and the terrible and grand mystery of it all; he invites us to sit, sit without answers, sit and contemplate the whys.  

Perhaps I loved it so because my Dad was a logger? Perhaps I loved it because I revisited my past, even the difficult past with rash decisions and regrets? Perhaps it was the time and place, the nostalgia? Yet how am I nostalgic for days before even my grandfather's birth (1913)? Perhaps because I long for a slower past, where change didn't constantly hit us all like middle school spitballs? Yes yes yes...but perhaps mostly these themes, these ideas, the invitation to contemplate. 

Film, as an art form, invites us to inhabit a space, to walk in those shoes, to join the protagonist's journey (somehow making our own a little less lonely), and to reflect on the story it constructs on the screen but more so, within us—all stories are interior stories, aren't they? That's art. It gets inside us. And what does it do there? It challenges us, it stirs us, it pushes, but it repairs us too, it restores us, it soothes and settles us, if we allow it, if we unclose ourselves to the ideas. 

Sunday, December 7, 2025

Things one should never outgrow:

LEGO. 

In my view, the 2020s need more LEGO. 

Recently, I spent an afternoon with my two-year-old grandson being his LEGOfer. As a fellow creative—and his (big-kid) assistant—I encouraged all his creations. However, some of my prototypes were approved, while others were dismantled without explanation. 😂

What are you waiting for? Also, dear friends, consider rewatching the LEGO Movie. Like LEGO itself, it's designed for multiple interactions. For example, I bet you missed this favourite line. 😄

Tuesday, December 2, 2025

Let's be honest:

slipping...falling...taking a tumble...unless you're a toddler (even then, I suppose) it can be quite serious. Sometimes there are big consequences. Statistically, it's foreboding. 

The photo tells the story, doesn't it? One might say, gravity called and I took the call on my knees. I've answered this call before—I remember my elbow took weeks to heal, but this time? Only my dignity took the plunge. 

Again, not to negate the seriousness of falling, but there's a very human moment after a fall, isn't there? That embarrassment? It's humility. And it certainly seemed to me like I had instantly developed warp-speed in uprighting myself and then scanning the neighbourhood to see who may have witnessed this grounding moment. A vehicle drove by, I nodded sheepishly. Nevertheless, thankful to be without pain, I had to laugh at my awkward self and the photo evidence: it's clear I was swept off my feet, but sigh, without the romance. I've devised a name for this moment: humortification. 😆

Dear friends, be safe out there and may your "down-to-earth" moments be low-impact.